Nollywood director cum actor, Ugezu
Jideofor Ugezu, aka Mr Surplus, is more known as a grandmaster in the
occult world as portrayed in his movies. But besides his make-believe
roles in movies, he’s the best thing that ever happened to his
wife, Peace. In their 10 years of marriage, the couple have come to
understand that they cannot live without each other. In this
encounter, Ugezu reveals how he would have married his ex-girlfriend
if she didn’t travel outside the country, just as the wife explains
why she fell in love with him.
How I met my husband
I met him in their house. One of my
sisters is married to his brother. So, I used to visit their house
most times and that's how I met him. In the process, we started
talking and the rest is history. But I wasn't surprised when he
approached me because I have known him for a long time. We were
friends until he made his intentions known to me.
His financial status
At the time he met me, he was
comfortable. And I wasn't complaining.
Dating
We dated for a year before he proposed
to me. He met in 2005 and got married in 2006.
How he proposed to me
He didn't really propose to me. He came
to my house one day and told my parents that he wants to marry me. We
didn't discuss it, even though I knew that our relationship wasn't
ordinary. However, if he didn't propose to me after dating me, I
would still be happy for him. Though it hurts, I would forget him and
move on with my life.
Would I have married him as a poor
man
Of course, I would have married him.
Right from time, I like huge men. So, I like him the way he is. It's
not about anything.
What has changed about him
We are improving now,but nothing has
really changed. It's just that before we got married, he was always
on his own. He doesn't like talking too much, and most times, he
would be busy clutching his phone or working on his laptop. But these
days, he has really changed. He would come back from a movie set and
start recounting his experiences to me. It wasn't so at the early
stage of our marriage. Then I was always having this feeling of
boredom and loneliness.
My husband cheating on me
Every woman would feel that her partner
who is in the business of meeting beautiful women on a daily basis
would cheat on her. But since that's his profession, there is nothing
I can do about it.
Hanging out with him
He's not that kind of man. He prefers
to hangout alone,while he gives me money to take my kids out. I don't
have a problem with that. Once he gives me money, I'm off with my
kids. But once in a blue moon, he'd take me out. For me, it's not an
issue in marriage.
Avoiding divorce
Everything depends on the woman. There
are things you can overlook just to make your marriage succeed. But
if you don't want to overlook certain things, that's where the
problem begins.
Precious gift from him
He bought me a car. Honestly, I don't
need anything more than being happy with my man. If I'm happy, I
don't need anything from anybody.
What can come between us
Absolutely, nothing can come between
us. I don't get close to his phones. I'm just okay with him. There
is nothing I cannot do for him. I can donate one of my kidney to save
his life if there is need for me to do so. That's the extent I can go
for him in marriage.
How I describe my husband
He's the best gift that God has ever
given to me. Besides being a good husband, he's also a good father to
his kids.
Watching my husband's films
I don't watch Nigerian films. I prefer
watching my Telemundo to our local films. This is because I don't
want anything that will make me become jealous or give me sleepless
nights. Sometimes, my husband would come home and start showing me
some things on his laptop, and I wouldn't be interested in watching
those things because I don't want anything to come between my
husband and I.
Girlfriend nearly stopped me from
marrying my wife—Ugezu, Nollywood actor
How we met
I met her in my village, Aguleri,
Anambra State. She’s a sister to my elder brother’s wife. She was
always visiting our village whenever she was on holidays. She was a
student at University of Nigeria, Nsukka then. I saw her and
developed interest in her.
Love at first sight
I don’t want to identify myself with
this thing they call love, because ‘love ‘ is a word that has a
lot of complexities. But you will know when you see a woman that you
can spend the rest of your life with. Love is a thing that evolves
with time. What convinced me I had been observing her for some time
before I finally made up my mind to marry her. She was surprised when
I proposed to her because she wasn’t expecting it. Each time I came
home from Lagos, she would come around and I was always observing her
behaviour.
Dating I didn’t date her.
We exchanged telephone numbers and
began to talk on phone. But there was nothing like intimate
relationship between us. That was why she was surprised when I told
her I was going to marry her. I didn’t give her the impression that
I was going to spend the rest of my life with her.
Don’t believe in relationship
Before I met her, I was into a lot of
relationships. I had a girlfriend in Zaria. I was planning to marry
her before she won visa lottery and relocated to America. I lost
contact with her and that was what prevented me from marrying her. I
was in a relationship and I was thinking of settling down with her
before she travelled out of the country.
Finding a wife in Nollywood
If I was not married before now, I
would have definitely married an actress. But the issue is that I was
already thinking of settling down before I was invited by one of the
foremost directors, Mac Collins Chidubem, aka China, to come and
write a screenplay for him. After writing that script, I never went
back to my car dealing business in Lagos. I didn’t plan to be part
of Nollywood from the outset.
Sex before marriage
If I had the opportunity, why not? Am I
not a man? I am not a monk. However, the opportunity didn’t present
itself, but eventually, it happened.
Fear of losing him to Nollywood
actresses
Definitely, she will entertain fear of
losing her husband to other women. But you will always tell that
there is a great different between appearance and reality. In the
course of our job, most of these actresses see us as being part of
them. Sometimes, an A-list actress would call me on the telephone
when I am with her, and she would engage me in all kinds of
discussions. My wife would be listening to our discussion. But it
doesn’t change the fact that she is still the wife. And she knows
that no matter what happens, I belong to her.
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